Manage your weaknesses

By no means do I mean that I have it all under control but, when I found out the following about myself, I learned the mechanism to make better and more meaningful decisions. I process my feelings and emotions positively and differently.

So, what am I actually talking about? It is about Self-defeating personality disorder. What does it imply? It implies and consists of the following.

A) A pervasive pattern of self-defeating behavior, beginning by early adulthood and present in a variety of contexts. The person may often avoid or undermine pleasurable experiences, be drawn to situations or relationships in which they will suffer, and prevent others from helping them, as indicated by at least five of the following:

#1 They choose people and situations which disappoint, fail, or mistreat and choose to overlook better options at hand.

#2 They reject the attempts of others who help them. Also, they feel depression, guilt, etc. when they make it and experience positive events or success.

#3 They reject opportunities for pleasure and are reluctant to acknowledge that they are enjoying themselves.

#4 They fail to accomplish even the tasks for which they have demonstrated the ability to do so (e.g., They help fellow students do assignments but don’t do their own.)

#5 They are uninterested in or reject people who consistently treat them well and engage in excessive self-sacrifice.

#6 They avoid or undermine pleasurable experiences

B) The behaviors in A occur even if there is no anticipation or prediction of being abused physically, sexually, or psychologically.

C) These behaviors occur even when one is not depressed.

Solution: If you maintain calm for 72 hours and don’t make your situation worse by reacting to people who have let you down, you can have a breakthrough.

If you are feeling guilty about making it, let that feeling pass. Or, you don’t share your successes. Intentionally seek out a social circle that is not deprecating and canceling on you.

Acknowledge each day two things that made you happy. This way, you can develop the habit of acknowledging the positive experiences in your life.